



This alone, as well as Nagoski’s related explication of the homologous nature of male and female sex organs, would make the book worth reading. Much of the book builds on research done by Erick Janssen and John Bancroft into a framework for sexual response involving two systems: the Sexual Excitement System, SES, your accelerator and the Sexual Inhibition System, SIS, or your brake. Updated: My best friend and I did not one but two podcast episodes in which we discuss this book! Listen to part 1 and part two It’s a little bit science text, a little bit self-help, and a lot of interesting discussion of the ways in which our mental states affect our physical wellbeing. Emily Nagoski’s book is a comprehensive guide to how people with vulvas can become more comfortable and fulfilled in their sex lives. Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life has been on my to-read list for a while (I blame Hannah Witton), but I finally bought it as a birthday present for a friend who shares my interest in these subjects.
